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yay

Praying that you and Jason have a Blessed and Loving time..Praying for your health.

  Love, Hugs and Prayers,

          Jewel

[Jeweliet]
2008-10-06 09:11:30

yay sorry I don't update. I'm going through a hard time right now. I'm in a huge depression because of it. Ian and I moved into our townhouse.

Send me messages on myspace! or call me sometime.. I'll give you my new home phone number on myspace.

[ToxicDoll]
2008-10-06 03:46:43

yay

Aww the sweatshirt sounds so cute.

<3 Shelb's

[rainbowlove13]
2008-10-05 14:51:21

yay Your such a sweet girl.  I love how you are always thinking of someone else over yoorself.  I really believe you will be rewarded for it.  Take Care.[thatpotsmokinghippy] 2008-10-05 08:48:23

yay

I hope you and Jason have fun in the hotel room. Good luck trying for a baby.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-10-05 01:19:26

rip Dakota, miss you baby

Major heart Hugs Dear One!!!!!

  Such a BEAUTIFUL tribute to a BEAUTIFUL Soul!

    My prayers are with you!

    Love you!,

        Jewel

[Jeweliet]
2008-10-04 19:00:26

amazing+pix

Juli,

You're welcome and thanks. It sounds like you and Paige had fun. I like the pic of you in the genie costume. You are s..xy. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-10-04 15:09:31

rip Dakota, miss you baby

Dakota looks just like Isaac looked. My heart goes out to his family. I know exactly what they are going through. Isaac was born at 19weeks and now reading this entry I wonder if he lived for a little while. They took him away and I didn't see him for several hours. If Dakota lived for two hours then Isaac could have to. That breaks my heart to think my little boy could have been alive and I never knew it. I hope Dakota and Isaac are in heaven together playing on God's playground.

[luckygrl]
2008-10-04 10:02:16

amazing+pix

Thanks.

Sorry to hear about what you have been through. But you know what? I was just talking earlier with a lady that works up at the hospital where I live, and she is pregnant with her second child.

We asked what she had at home, and she said she had a son, who wasn't alive anymore. She lost her first child.

Hearing that, hearing what you've been through, and knowing what I am going through now, you realize that everyone is walking around with some sort of story and sadness. But it's that kind of thing that you don't think about until you're experiencing it for yourself. You don't realize that there are other people in the world that are hurting just as bad as you are.

So thank you for sharing that with me, and leaving the nice comment :)

Hope you're doing ok, take care.

-jen.<3

[jlynnx]
2008-10-04 01:02:01

rip Dakota, miss you baby Those pictures make me want to cry. He was so precious and I am still so mad that they didn't do anything to try and save him! I know he was so little and it was a miracle he made it so long but dammit! I can't believe its been a whole year...[VanityDespair] 2008-10-03 22:06:42

rip Dakota, miss you baby OMG that almost made me cry.

When I was pregnant with my son Leland I had a dream that he was born 1 lb 06 oz and they tried to save him at 20 weeks, and he took his last breath in my arms, I woke up crying because of the dream.
I am now expecting my second child, and I cannot imagine going through that.

I feel bad for your brother having to go through that, the hurt in both of their eyes in the pics is heart breaking.

Even though he survived 2 hours, it must have been so painful for him to be wrapped up like that, his skin is so thin that even a touch feels like putting salt on an open wound, I can't imagine going through that.

[chillrgirl]
2008-10-03 21:03:40

amazing+pix your eyes are so freaking pretttttty i want them!!! <3[AMANDAxELAINE] 2008-10-03 09:38:40

amazing+pix Your silly, your cute even though with a real smile![Deafchick] 2008-10-03 09:34:16

rambling an update

I hope things get better for both of you. I'm sorry to hear about the panic attacks. Hang in there. Why don't you comment my entries anymore? Did I say or do something wrong? Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-10-02 13:39:02

rambling an update i would so trade with u if i could. i have had a heavy period for about 3 wks now. i would gladly trade with u if i could. [lil_fun] 2008-10-01 21:42:47

rambling an update hey thanks for the comment. Yeah I'm glad the bday was so good. I should have pics posted today (After school) while I'm at work. I really don't know what's going on with Randy but w/e.......... Thanks again for the comment..... Yeah add me in your "diet" diary[angelinhell] 2008-10-01 10:28:16

rambling an update Good luck. I hope everything works out with ovulating. I like ultra sounds too. I get mine on halloween.
<3 Shelb's[rainbowlove13]
2008-10-01 00:58:21

quick update thanks. I did have a good b-day. I know time just flew by. I lived at home wishing I was 18 now I'm living here wishing I was 14 again. I miss not being able to have my youth. It's pretty much wasted on my real parents Crying or Very sad I hate it. But yeah I remember turning 16 and now I'm 18 and getting insurance to drive and everything else Thursday so yeah it's just went by too fast![angelinhell] 2008-09-30 11:12:05

quick update Sending extra prayers your way![Jeweliet] 2008-09-30 11:08:58

sleepy I see spots everytime I am about to
Pass out and my body turns icy cold
Hmmmmm I have irregular periods
It scares me sometimes [CitySleepsInFlames]
2008-09-29 22:39:38

♥pix♥ Thanks girl
You have such pretty eyes and I want
A nose ring so bad
I've had my experciences with making out
With guys that have facial hair
I don't find it pleasant haha
Take care [CitySleepsInFlames]
2008-09-29 22:34:47

quick update

Hang in there Juli. Things will be ok. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-29 14:58:29

spot

I think your bodys just trying to get back to normal. I wish you guys luck. I added you.

<3 Shelb's

[rainbowlove13]
2008-09-27 13:01:08

spot Good luck to both of you Juli. I'll keep you in my prayers. Take care.

Chad[GhostWalker]
2008-09-27 12:15:33

spot

glad you're finally getting back on track.  whatever small track it may seem to be.  at least it seems pretty sceduled.  i'd call it a period, even though it is really light.

[nbriggs]
2008-09-27 06:01:24

spot oh I am praying for you. I know you wanted this badly. [Deafchick] 2008-09-26 22:42:55

about me

Thanks Juli. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-25 12:24:14

♥pix♥ Heart Hugs, Love and Prayers ARE being sent your way![Jeweliet] 2008-09-24 14:46:42

♥pix♥

hey. how do u do the love hearts beside ur title.

love your pix they're awesome. ur soo pretty!!!!

love ur nose peicing.

bye theveronicasrok

[theveronicasrok]
2008-09-24 05:19:37

hair? I have mine cut almost like what you're talking about, but I had the front cut shorter this time.  I don't know if there's a name for it or not, I just tell them how I like it.  Suggestion though, after you get it cut ask them to go over it with a razor on the ends, it gives it a nice wispy effect and helps it "spike" when you want it that way.[doxielover] 2008-09-23 19:34:57

hair? i like the first one and the last one.  especially the last one, though i don't know why since i'm not usually into hair that short.  but the first one's really cute too. [nbriggs] 2008-09-23 18:22:04

hair?

Have it done like the 2nd picture up the top =)

<3

[Breakable13]
2008-09-23 14:46:36

hair? I love those cuts!  really sassy.  I think the short cut though is more versatile for different environments -- ie. from work to play etc... Let us know how it turns out!
[DIVAnonymous]
2008-09-23 09:15:02

not much I really hope you get better![SecretObsession108] 2008-09-21 13:36:26

sleepy

have any of the dr.s ever looked at ur tubes or ovaries. if u get cysts on ur ovaries it can completely through everything off and they are very painful. they can also cause the same symptoms as a miscariage.

my friend ended up in the hospital because a cyst ruptured and everything seemed as if she was loosing. a baby but at that time she hadn't ever had s..x. so they looked at he ovaries with altru sound and she has cysts growing on them.

not to be rude and u don't have to answer this next question. have u ever had  full STD testing done. im not saying u have one but i no clamidia causes scare tissue to grow in the tubes and can be very pain full. im not saying u have anything. i ust thought it would be a good thing to rule out.

[lil_fun]
2008-09-19 23:27:55

sleepy

you poor thing, when does your insurance finally kick in?  the problem with everything besides the period, is it's going to be hard to get a doctor to take you seriously.  i know.  i've had chronic back probkems since i was 14 (to points i'm paralyzed for 3 or 4 days) and i can't get a doctor to take me seriously because i'm 25.  i'm too young for back problems.  i hope there's a doctor out there willing to listen to you and willing to help you. and i pray your insurance kicks in soon.

[nbriggs]
2008-09-19 02:46:08

sleepy

I'm sorry you're not feeling well Juli. I'll pray for you. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-18 12:24:52

HOUSE! I'm so lost with Degrassi. I watched all the way up to where JT dies. Whats been happening?
[ToxicDoll]
2008-09-18 06:45:02

sleepy If you throw up anymore I'd go to the ER and make sure it's not your appendix.  That's if you still have it, lol.  Seriously though, what you're describing sounds a lot like what I felt like when mine became enlarged (that's what happens before it ruptures, and you can die from it).  Just a thought.  Hope you feel better soon.[doxielover] 2008-09-17 19:01:44

sleepy Wow...that is bizarre. I am praying for you and hoping you can find an answer to this. I want you to have a child. You and Jason would be wonderful parents Mr. Green[luckygrl] 2008-09-17 08:57:35

sleepy I'm thinking about you.

For whatever it's worth.

[thatpotsmokinghippy]
2008-09-17 07:51:53

sleepy Ever talked to your doctor about early menopause?  endometriosis?
[MTDreaming]
2008-09-16 23:37:25

sleepy I will be praying for you!

Is there any way you can go ahead and make the appointment for once your insurance kicks in. That way you will hopefully get in right away!

[armywife11]
2008-09-16 23:16:32

HOUSE! Wow, it's one of my favorite shows ever too, but I'm not sure I'm as excited as the comment below, lol.ShockedShockedShocked  I'm looking forward to the rest of "my shows" starting up again soon too.  Enjoy your day off.[doxielover] 2008-09-16 20:28:51

HOUSE! i love house so much
its ma favorite show ever!!!!!!
i would make love to house...lol
=]
love this show...
you rock for loving the show!!!
house rules my heart
i cant wait for 2nite
i love love love love love love it!!
LOVE LOVE LOVE HOUSE!!!!!!!!!

[DemolitonLover]
2008-09-16 19:04:05

HOUSE!

Mr. Green I LOVE HOUSE TOO... I am sitting here ticking away the minutes until it comes onMr. Green

aws

[awsmnss24]
2008-09-16 18:16:45

N/A Awwwwww happy Birthday to your Mom!Mr. Green Love, Hugs and Prayers are being sent your way![Jeweliet] 2008-09-15 09:47:34

N/A [GhostWalker] 2008-09-14 16:57:04

stressed and depressed [LucyFord] 2008-09-13 01:29:47

stressed and depressed Thinking of you. Sorry I haven't been on much. How is the TTC thing going? Hope things get better soon sweetie. I love ya Mr. Green[luckygrl] 2008-09-12 19:29:11

stressed and depressed Juli,

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I'll pray for you. If you want to talk e-mail me. My address is GhostWalker39@yahoo.com Try not to cut, it might make you feel better but in the long run it won't help. Take care.

Chad[GhostWalker]
2008-09-12 10:53:11

stressed and depressed

Seems like being stressed out and depressed brought you those sickness  in your body. I hope you have some relax days.. Well, I know money's problem stay deeply in your mind. It is the biggest problem. You will be 20 soon. You are very young.. A lot of future ahead of you. you must not feel that way though. I hope you are not taking yoour meds too much. Taking once in a while to make you feel better is good though.

I hope you get a peace in your mind. Wink

[masako]
2008-09-12 07:51:50

stressed and depressed I'm sorry you don't feel happy Juli.  *Hug*  Thinking of you, hoping you'll feel better soon! [AllySunnySmile] 2008-09-12 07:40:05

makemebabies/hurting I know what you mean. Mine is tilted and stuff. Both time when I was pregnant and they went to check my I would cry. THey have to shove their whole hand in. Very painful!
[armywife11]
2008-09-11 19:16:05

makemebabies/hurting

My 4 year old got ahold of scissors and gave herself "crappy boy bangs", lol.  They're actually cute.  Sorry to hear about your most recent troubles.  I hope you get to the doctor soon.

Jenn

[doxielover]
2008-09-11 08:00:52

pain....

Juli,

I'm sorry you're hurting, I hope you can see a Dr soon. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-09 17:14:04

L♥VE How thoughtfull!  Sometimes, I swear if I were to close my eyes, my hubby couldn't guess the color...[thatpotsmokinghippy] 2008-09-09 06:48:55

L♥VE

That was sweet of him to think of you. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-08 18:00:06

pix♥ I have the same "problem" with large boobage... not that I usually consider it a problem! Just the impression that I got from that pic, but glad to see you aren't intending that. [CommentQueen] 2008-09-07 13:47:35

pix♥ Juli,

You're not a dork, I like your pics. Jason's right, you are pretty. Take care.

Chad[GhostWalker]
2008-09-07 12:51:01

pix♥

my favorite picture of you is the first 2,  for 2 reason, I absoultely love the sweater. It is so cute! and 2. I like your hair down like that. I like the color on you, I think it look better, I agree the blonde is cute, and  A LOT work updating because of black root, ICK!!!

have a good day :)

[Deafchick]
2008-09-07 01:48:10

pix♥ You're very pretty, I just have one suggestion- which is to not use that one pic as your myself default. You're so pretty and sweet, as I've noticed from reading your diary. Don't be one of those girls w/ cleavage shots all up on public sites, is that really the image you want to project? From what i can see about you- you're so much more than that.[CommentQueen] 2008-09-07 00:13:26

pix♥ I read your last entries when I seen this one, and seen that you wanted to become pregnant.




Before I had my son, it took 2 1/2 years to get pregnant with him,
however, I did a lot of research on fertility aids in those 2 1/2 years.



Alot of the time doctors won't do as much as they can for woman who are
wanting to have a child and are unable to, they will take the cheap way
out for the insurance.




There are low cost fertility pills that you can buy that have a very
high success rate, some can cause you to ovulate more than one egg
which in return can cause multiples or increase the chance of a
healthy egg to be fertilized.




I would suggest checking into a drug called Clomid.


Since you are not having your menstrual period it could be due to not
ovulating, Clomid can help you ovulate and also helps cervical mucus.




However it is a pricey drug, if your insurance won't help you,
sometimes the best thing you can do is help yourself. If you cannot get
them to help you conceive you can purchase it online, it is pricey, but
it is supposed to have the highest success rate.



















[chillrgirl]
2008-09-06 23:54:15

pix♥ You are so pretty Juli! I love, love, LOVE your top! :-) Red is my fave colour. You look so beautiful and you have such an expressive face. [AllySunnySmile] 2008-09-06 23:53:45

pix♥ cute pics[djwaidah7] 2008-09-06 22:42:39

cold

Juli,

Thanks for your comment, I'm glad I still make you smile. I'm sorry you don't feel good. I hope you get to go to the movies. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-05 18:48:45

cold Thank you so much.  I feel guilty but I just want a little happiness.  We have not even had sex just kind of hold each other.  Weird huh?

Feel Better ;)

[thatpotsmokinghippy]
2008-09-05 09:13:33

hmmm...

You said once that I make you laugh, I'm sorry I haven't given you much to laugh about lately. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-04 19:22:30

hmmm...

Things will work out with your birth mom. Hang in there.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-04 19:21:34

pictures[no make up either]

Nice pics Juli,

I'd go for the 4th or 6th makeover pics. You're looking good. Cute pic of Max. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-09-03 18:43:59

pictures[no make up either] I like the first make over thing. You should concider it! And how did you do that???? like the make over thing[SecretObsession108] 2008-09-03 16:05:26

pictures[no make up either] yeah you'd live close to me, so we would be able to hang out
[ToxicDoll]
2008-09-03 04:59:42

pictures[no make up either]

Pale skin = HOT

I can see your ribcage = HOT

Trust me, thousands of south american trash are looking at you with envy.

[lenahan]
2008-09-03 00:40:17

prayers i'm trying to see how close you'd live near me
[ToxicDoll]
2008-09-02 15:16:59

prayers I will pray for you.

did you delete me on myspace? or was it one of those days when I didn't want to be in the world and I deleted everybody..

a lot of weird/crazy sh*t is going on. I should take my story to Jerry Springer.. Seriously, everybody would just love it.

[ToxicDoll]
2008-09-02 03:28:29

got questions OMG if you move to chicago I could see you sometime!! I'm only 40 minutes away
[ToxicDoll]
2008-09-02 03:27:51

i guess not Good luck, I hope everything's ok. Take care.

Chad[GhostWalker]
2008-08-31 15:47:35

got questions Juli,

The best thing I could tell you to do is call the admissions office of the college or colleges you're interested in. They can tell you excatly what you need to do. It's been too long since I was in college. I don't remember what to do anymore. The beginning of the Bible is always a good place to start but for these times, the new testament, especially Corinthians, Leviticus and Revelations is a good place to start also. Hope that helps. Good luck with the Dr and dentist appts. Talk to you soon. How's trying for a baby going? Take care, still praying for you both.

Chad[GhostWalker]
2008-08-31 15:39:00

got questions I sent the e-mail to you. Keep an eye ut for it, I titled it 60 Day Overview of the Bible. [CoffeeAndNicotine] 2008-08-31 11:39:23

got questions hmm never heard of the pell grants...they sound like a really good idea though! Yes look into grants in the area you will be living...the college you will be going to may even have some you might qualify for. It also might be a good idea to call the college's human resources dept. and try and set up an appt with an advisor to help you sort out your options.[LucyFord] 2008-08-31 01:38:08

got questions

 fThe pell grant pays for all my books and tuition, plus some.  From the fafsa you EFC (expected family contribution) is determined.  Since you are married, it will go from J and yours taxes from 2008.  Mine was 0, but I have a dependent.  Then they take you planned college tuition, books and projected living expenses and subtract your EFC from that.  So I get my tuintion/fees/books paid plus 2 checks a semester, each about $800.  Thats about 3200 a year for me to use on living expenses plus all frees paid.  So basically, I get paid to go to college. 

That is why I say that there is not much to hold back someone trully determined to go to school.

[thatpotsmokinghippy]
2008-08-30 21:11:25

got questions YOu need to fill out the fafsa form, the last commenter left a link. If it is for next fall, you will need to do it after Jan 1.  Try to get it done, asap after the new year.  It pretty much handles everything from there.  I go to school through a local college, but I take mostly online classes.  I still have a few physical obligations but it is nice to be able to do most on my own time.  Good Luck!  I hate moving.  How are you feeling about being so far from your mom?[thatpotsmokinghippy] 2008-08-30 09:59:30

got questions

http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/

You'll need to apply for a PIN (there is a link on the website) and when they send it to you, you can fill out the form online.

[VanityDespair]
2008-08-30 08:45:18

got questions

I'm kindof in the same boat as you right now with the just starting out with college/university and trying to figure out how to pay for it all. There are ALL sorts of grants/bursaries which you may be eligible for, sometimes there are some that nobody or few people even know about so you could end up getting it even if you are not that well suited for it. I don't live in your area (or even in the states) but i would suggest starting out on the internet, just google college grant applications for your area, and apply to as many as you can even if u think you wont get them. Sometimes there are grants for certain ethnic backgrounds or certain fields of study too so check into that.

But keep in mind a grant may not cover the total cost of your studies, it could be as little as a few hundred bucks-but every little bit helps. But why do you think you could never pay back a loan? College is only 8 months of the year, in which u can work part time, the other 4 months u can work full time. I didnt want to get a loan either because i hate being in debt, but i ended up doing it becuz i have no other choice. You could do a combination of a grant and loan too. that way your loan would be smaller if u recieve a grant.

Oh and i would apply for the Grants and/or loan asap, because they can take a while to process and go through. hope i helped a little? good luck :)

[LucyFord]
2008-08-30 03:59:04

got questions Bringing God closer in your life is an awesome idea! Commune with him and he may just tell you want your doing wrong on the baby front! Amazing things happen when you make God the center of your life. I have a great devotional bible for Women and in the back there are a couple of reading plans that you do daily and one of them is a 60 day overview starting from beginning to end. I really enjoyed it. It's like the basics. If you like I can e-mail the structure of it for you, or post it here. Just let me know! My grandpa always told us to read the New Testament first because things were so different in the Old Testament. Most people don't understand why God was so "mean", but when you read the New before Old it's easier to understand and know that nothing everything in the Old Testament still applies to our world today, but it is important to know. [CoffeeAndNicotine] 2008-08-29 22:28:02

blah

Hi Juli

I haven't commented your diary in ages, I know... I hope you really are ok girl. 
I just wanted to tell you- there is this girl that goes to the same gym as me and she looks EXACTLY like you.  Its so weird!!  I always say hi to her, because I kind of forget that it can't possibly be you, and then I realise... Um, Juli is on another CONTINENT.  Pretty strange, huh?  Lol. 

[AllySunnySmile]
2008-08-27 07:36:22

blah I hope things work out for you. I guess I'll probably be going to the doctor next week or something. I've been having a light bleeding to spotting off and on for almost 9 weeks now.. Something is really wrong, but I am stugling with finances right now, and have no insurance. Well good luck.[ThisScarredHeart] 2008-08-26 14:48:28

i guess not

u don't have to have a period to ovulate, and jason is right u can bleed lightly when u get pregnant. most woman have a little bit of spotting when the egg plants itself to the uteran wall.

fertility facts graphic



 
The Conception Kit gives the patients the ability to enhance their opportunity to conceive while in the privacy of their own home.

How to Use the Conception Kit

First, the couple identifies the best day to conceive, using the LH surge ovulation predictors provided with the Conception Kit. The day after the LH surge is the best day to become pregnant.

The couple should have intercourse normally using the non-latex semen collector and sperm-friendly intimate moisturizer.

The semen is then immediately squeezed from the semen collector into the Conception Cap.

The Conception Cap is placed over the cervix for six to eight hours, or overnight.

At the end of the monthly cycle it is time to use the pregnancy test kit to determine if she was successful.

The Conception Journal is provided to give instructions and helpful hints on what a couple can do to enhance their chances of conception. The Conception Journal includes a chart that when completed will become a detailed record of your cycle. The chart can be useful tool to your doctor if you need further assistance later on.

The Conception Wheel will help in timing conception and planning a pregnancy.

The Health Care Provider Note is designed to let the patients’ medical provider know that they are trying to conceive. It is also a way to let you, the health care provider, know this in case she is currently taking medications which might diminish her chances of becoming pregnant.

The Conception Kit should be used for six months (two kits).

The normal number of attempts required to conceive will vary from couple to couple. If your patient has not become pregnant after using the Conception Kit for six months, they are instructed to consult you as their medical provider. Make sure to have them bring their Conception Journal to the medical appointment. Their personal chart in the Journal will be invaluable to you should your patient need to seek your further medical assistance.     www.conceptionkit.com


Top Tips

Conception can be a bit of a lottery, but here are some tips that can really make a difference to both your levels of fertility. While most people know that sperm need to be in the right place at the right time, it is also important for both of your bodies to be providing the right condictions.

 

1 - Eat a healthy balanced diet Food is amazingly important. The body needs vitamins and minerals that are found in a range of foods to provide it with the chemicals it needs to produce the lining in the womb. If you have been on the pill for a long time you may be low on certain vitamins and minerals, especially vitamin B complexes. This means that you might consider checking up on your diet.
Women should also take a 400 mcg folic acid tablet as part of their daily diet as this can prevent spina bifida and neural tube defects.
2 - Avoid alcohol It is a good idea for you both to avoid alcohol or at least to really cut down. There are many reasons for this, but the key is to remember that however much you like a drink, it does act as a poison in the body. It lowers men's sperm count even when men are only drinking small amounts. It also prevents the body from taking in those essential minerals and vitamins that are needed for conception. Finally, it is worth knowing that as well as potentially causing damage to unborn babies, it can also cause miscarriages
3 - Give up Smoking Just like alcohol, smoking is another poison for the body. There is plenty of research to show that both men's and women's levels of fertility drop when you smoke. Sadly, smoking also causes babies to be born prematurely and this affects their long-term health and even ability to survive.
4 - Take some gentle, regular exercise Exercise has many benefits and can help to reduce stress as well as stimulate some essential hormones. You should both, however, avoid excessive fitness regimes as these can actually reduce your levels of fertility.
5 - Enjoy each other's company and find time to do things together It is not unusual for couples to find baby making stressful. It can quickly become clinical and this in turn is likely to have some effect on your ability to conceive. Spending time together and enjoying yourselves can reduce any stress. It's not perhaps surprising that many couples who go away on holiday, having decided not to bother with baby making for a while, return only to find that a pregnancy has been achieved.
6 - Keep sperm count up by wearing cotton boxer shorts and avoiding hot baths. A common cause of low sperm count in men is simply down to the testes being overheated. This means that you should avoid tight fitting underwear, lycra shorts and having hot baths and showers. You should also avoid sitting down for long periods as this can reduce your fertility. Choose boxer shorts made if possible out of cotton. As it take up to six months to improve sperm count, you should keep up this regime until conception has taken place.
7 - Get to know your cycle and work out when you are likely to ovulate It you take the time to work out when your body releases the egg during your cycle, you will start to get an idea of when you should be making love. See learning about your cycle (women only)
8 - Have sex around the time that you ovulate. As conception is about sperm being in the right place at the right time, you can maximise your chances of conception by making love when you are at your most fertile.
9 - Avoid seeing "baby making" as a race or competition Stress can really affect conception. Although it can be disheartening to suddenly notice that everyone else seems to have a baby or young children, try not to see it as a race. Also consider additional stresses in your life, at work or home, as they may also reduce your chances of getting pregnant. Deal with these issues as best you can, take regular breaks from work and time out for yourself and your partner. Do think about visiting your GP, however, if you have not conceived after 12 months of trying. Take any useful information with you, like a temperature chart and your diary, so the doctor can see how your cycle works.

Ovulation Kits
Ovulation Prediction Kits

Some women use ovulation predictor kits to help them predict their fertile phase. Ovulation predictor kits are available from chemists and are reasonably reliable and fairly simple to use. They work by detecting a hormone in your urine that increases when ovulation is about to take place.

Ovulation kits are not able to tell you exactly when the egg is about to be released, but will be able to predict that you will ovulate between 12 -36 hours after a positive result. You may have to keep repeating the tests on different days to find out when you are most likely to ovulate.

While some couples find that ovulation predictor kits are very helpful, others find that they can create tension and it can make sex feel very clinical and planned.

Cycle Changes

As well as using a diary method to learn about your menstrual cycle, some women find it useful to notice the way that their cervical fluid changes. The cervix secretes mucus throughout the menstrual cycle, but the mucus changes at different points in the cycle.

Around ovulation, it increases and becomes much thinner, slippery and stretchy. If you were to put some mucus between your finger and thumb, you would find that it would stretch several centimetres. It is often compared to raw egg white. This mucus is designed to help the sperm swim easily through it and nourish it. This is a good indicator that you are in your fertile phase.

This is the time to have sex if you want to get pregnant, or to use contraception if you do not! A few days after ovulation, the mucus changes again. This time there is less of it and it is thick and cloudy. In this state it is hostile to sperm.

The best time to make love if you want a baby is at the end of the first phase of your menstrual cycle, just before you ovulate. Look out for thin, stretchy and clear cervical mucus as a sign that you are about to ovulate. If you have been taking your temperature each day when you first wake up, you should see a small drop followed by a rise

Implantation Study

Implantation Study

Embryo's are actually "sticky"

Scientists learned more about implantation this year when they studied how the fertilized egg actually implants into the uterine wall.

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Researchers funded by the National Institutes of Health said the information will make it easier to understand what causes miscarriages and what role implantation has in infertility problems.

According to the National Institutes of Health, a department of the U.S. government, the study showed the fertilized egg has a coating that attracts and adheres to the molecules on the surface of the uterus.

About six days after fertilization, when the egg is referred to as a blastocyst, it is shaped like a sphere and covered by a layer of cells that form a coating. The coating is made of the same cells that will later go on to form the placenta.

Russell Foulk, M.D. of Nevada proved that at about this time -- six days after fertilization -- the blastocyst revs up the amount of special coating on its surface, just in time for the egg to contact the wall of the uterus.

The researchers believe that as the blastocyst travels along the uterine wall, the coating of sticky cells on its surface binds to the carbohydrates on the uterine wall, until the blastocyst gradually slows to a complete stop, according to a press release from the National Institutes of Health.

"It's analogous to a tennis ball rolling over a table top covered with syrup," said the study's senior author, Susan Fisher, PhD., UCSF professor of stomatology, anatomy and pharmaceutical chemistry. "The embryo's journey is arrested by the sticky interaction with the uterine wall."

Once the sticky coating has done its job of stopping the blastocyst on the uterine wall, the cells multiply and begin to form the placenta. The placenta is made up of cells from the baby and the mother that interact in such a way that the baby can draw nutrients and resources from the mother without actually sharing blood.

In the very first stage of building the placenta, the cells that came from the sticky coating of the fetus invade the uterine wall by sending finger-like extensions into it. These projections make contact with the maternal blood supply, becoming the pipeline through which the fetus derives nutrients and oxygen, and rids itself of carbon dioxide and wastes, according to the National Institutes of Health.

Dr. Fisher explained that learning about the molecular processes leading up to implantation may provide information useful for treating infertility. Some cases of unexplained infertility and early pregnancy loss are thought to be caused by a failure of the coating to properly attach to the uterine wall.

The study used samples of uterine lining from volunteers, collected at different times during their cycles. The researchers found that the amount of sticky carbohydrate molecules on the uterine wall was greatest at the time when the uterus was most receptive to the fertilized egg.

In women with luteal phase defect, the uterine lining is not at the proper point in development when the fertilized egg arrives. This study shows how important it is for the uterine lining to be ready with the proper sticky molecules on its surface when the fertilized egg lands in the uterus and comes in contact with the uterine wall.

The researchers in this study also took the coating from the blastocyst to see how well it bonded to the uterine lining. They found that the coating bonded more firmly to sections of uterine lining collected when the uterus is most receptive to implantation than to those collected when the uterine lining is least receptive.

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The finding appears in the January 17th Science. The research was conducted by scientists at the University of California at San Francisco (UCSF), the Nevada Center for Reproductive Medicine in Reno, the Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory in Berkeley, California, and the University of Wisconsin, Madison. It was begun after another scientist discovered the sticky coating, called L-selectin, is the reason white blood cells can come to a stop in the correct places in blood vessels.

"This discovery opens up a promising new realm of research," said Duane Alexander, M.D., Director of the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD). "It may lead to insight into infertility, early pregnancy loss, and perhaps to an understanding of the life-threatening complication of pregnancy known as preeclampsia."

Part of the funding for the study was provided by the NICHD, the National Institute of General Medical Sciences (NIGMS), the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute (NHLBI), and the National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research (NIDCR), all part of the National Institutes of Health.

Article by, Alice Foeller

sorry to add so much but i was hoping something i found could help. good luck.

[lil_fun]
2008-08-26 01:03:37

well... just make sure they do a pregnancy test just in case before u let them put u on anything.[lil_fun] 2008-08-26 00:53:49

blah Thinking of you Mr. Green[luckygrl] 2008-08-25 18:19:45

blah

Hi Juli,

Hang in there..........I'm keeping you in my prayers. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-25 18:13:49

i guess not I know you talked about having some weight gain issues, and this may not be it, but a girlfriend of mine at work didn't have normal periods for quite some time, like 3 in a year, and she finally asked a doctor about it and it's due to alot of weight gain that was put on too fast. She has never dropped it either. It's a condition that is treatable. I'm not sure what the medication is but she takes it now and she has a period once a month like every one else and it isn't birth control. Maybe you should google it or when your insurance kicks in talk to a doctor about it and see if that could possibly be it. [CoffeeAndNicotine] 2008-08-25 13:10:25

i guess not A period doesn't cause ovulation. Ovulation triggers a process in your body and when the egg doesn't implant, a signal is sent to start the menstruation. For whatever reason, something is stopping you from ovulating and I don't think a normal gyno would know what that is. If insurance can cover it (and I pray they can!) you need to see the fertility specialist. It would be good for you to go anyway, given your history with miscarriage and your mothers history. [VanityDespair] 2008-08-24 20:42:56

i guess not most insurance policies do cover fertility treatments.  and that's probably what you need.  you need a fertility specialist.  maybe ask your gyn if there's someone she can recommend.  [nbriggs] 2008-08-24 19:10:36

i guess not Fertility specialist will help you figure it out. You did stop taking the B/C one cycle early right? Maybe you need to give it more time? Also, I know this is a catch-22 but from what I recall talking to friends you want to limit the stress you feel in your life. When trying to conceive that is a hard thing to do, but try to stay positive. [CommentQueen] 2008-08-24 15:33:45

NO specialist for me

Good luck to both of you.....Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-23 12:29:26

NO specialist for me ((((((((((((((Juli)))))))))))))))Praises be to God!Mr. Green[Jeweliet] 2008-08-23 11:21:21

NO specialist for me yay! That's exiting.  Just don't starve it away....[thatpotsmokinghippy] 2008-08-23 09:17:25

NO specialist for me Woohoo! Your body is really trying to get things going! This is great news![VanityDespair] 2008-08-22 23:07:42

NO specialist for me
Congrats! Can't wait to hear you are pregnant!
[armywife11]
2008-08-22 21:21:51

coca-cola cute. I love it Mr. Green[luckygrl] 2008-08-22 19:33:13

coca-cola L(((((((((((Juli)))))))))) Cute! I haven't wrote to BobbieLyn yet...Not sure what to say..could you tell me a little bit about what's going on with her and then I could write...DDon't wnat the letter to be all about me! Sending Love, Hugs and Prayers your way! [Jeweliet] 2008-08-21 09:36:36

coca-cola

Looks good Juli.....talk to you soon.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-20 17:22:33

N/A

Juli,

Good to hear from you. Hope you and Jason had a good day today. I got my own placeVery HappyTake care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-19 16:51:47

weight crap

Have a good night Juli, good luck with working out. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-18 19:46:05

weight crap

Please do not go too far.  I really hope you do not relaspe.  You are a strong, capable woman, you do not need this illness to cope. 

Maybe I am saying that more to myself.

[thatpotsmokinghippy]
2008-08-18 09:05:45

weight crap well done for working out recently! - i know for me it really helps

anyway good luck with your targets - i'm sure you'll get there

xx foodbloodysux
[foodbloodysux]
2008-08-18 09:05:44

well... im sure you must of already thought of this...but i think you need to go to a fertility specialist rather than just a normal doctor. I'm sure they could do much more for you. read "myprincehascome"'s diary maybe it will give u some ideas[LucyFord] 2008-08-18 04:06:10

maybe next month....

allie-

we've been trying for a baby for 2.5 years. at this point i'm ready to give up. i think that's what i'll do, give up on the act of trying. and know in my heart eventually God will let me have a child.

and yes i am over wieght. 154 today, and only 5'4. i know i've gained boobs back, lol none of my bras it. i started dieting again today.

if your simi would you add me?

-Juli

[TheLostAngel]
2008-08-16 19:26:40

maybe next month.... sorry it's negative.  but it's not over till af starts.  i got two weeks of negatives when i was pregnant with my daughter.  so don't give up until the end.  Very Happy  i haven't tested yet...i think i got 2 days to go till af.  i won't test till at least then.[nbriggs] 2008-08-16 16:18:46

maybe next month.... I know the feeling of wanting a baby. I am wanting to have one so bad but financially it just isn't time. I pray every night that I will get pregnant. But I know that it will happen when it is meant to! Good luck with it all! I highly doubt you are over weight.....It will all work out![Alliesheart] 2008-08-16 12:50:27

Ciara's 11 b-day[pix] Juli,

Nice pics, I'm glad everyone had a good time. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-16 11:34:14

Ciara's 11 b-day[pix] thanks. It's weird how it feels like things will disappear as soon as you delete it from here but then they don't after you do delete them. You've been here with me the whole time. When I had the pregnancy scare then when I got pregnant. Then you were there to help me when I lost her. You've been a faithful member here on the site but also a faithful member in my heart.

It feels good to know that I'm not alone. It sucks that it's because you've been there but I'm glad we know what eachother's going through. Love ya girl[angelinhell]
2008-08-16 08:40:49

waiting..

Stay strong, keep your eyes on your prize, a BABY!  THat's much better than puke, right?

Fred will be 28 on Dec 22.  Trippy, both our hubby's are 28...

[thatpotsmokinghippy]
2008-08-15 11:06:14

waiting..

 I wasn't done yet! Lol (Hit the wrong button!Neutral) I'm so glad that you are able to have loving relationships with both your mom's..You have a beautiful and loving heart and spirit that shines through.

I said a prayer for your younger sister and birth mom-  I will write her another letter this weekend..I can soooo relate to her and want to give her some support...I will need her address again- Please email it to me at jewelietsparkles@hotmail.com

    I'm praying for you and sending you MUCH LOVE!,

               Jewel

[Jeweliet]
2008-08-15 09:46:21

waiting.. ((((((((((((9Juli)))))))))) Loved the pics..You are so very beautiful![Jeweliet] 2008-08-15 09:45:38

waiting..

I read your diary alot but i don't think ive left comments so here is one. I think it is great that you have found *the One* and ya'll are married and trying for a baby and i really hope it happens for you soon, you sound like a wonderful person Mr. Green

[NotSoLovelyLife]
2008-08-15 09:04:55

waiting..

Don't feel so old, I'm 22.  lol

[thatpotsmokinghippy]
2008-08-15 08:47:39

waiting.. Added :) x
[wipemytears]
2008-08-15 08:29:56

today (((((((((((((Juli)))))))))))))) Glad that you are feeling better! Love, Hugs and Prayers are being sent your way!  How is your birth-mom doing?[Jeweliet] 2008-08-14 10:38:00

today Golden rule: LAZE AROUND THE HOUSE ON YOUR OFF DAY! LOL hope you feel better with the whole nausea thing going on. [Prosper] 2008-08-14 10:00:37

today

i've been thinking of chas all day too. Very Happy

i'm so sorry for your friend's loss (and yours for that matter). 

[nbriggs]
2008-08-13 15:28:39

today Juli,

I'm glad your headache is better. I never thought about the possibility of war with Russia. I hope that doesn't happen. Take care of yourself.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-13 13:36:17

love lost

[lil_fun]
2008-08-13 01:32:13

love lost

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Village/6215/RYF1.htm

this site is in memory of all the children that could of been. u can post ur child dates and the name u would of given them and say something u want to say.

i no it wont change anything but i thought it might help to have a memorial for you little ones who are now in heaven.

i rote a poem for u:

my precious child
by: beth lawson

             rest in peace my little one for god is with u now.
          he will watch over u as i would. and never make u frown.
              i pray someday we meet again at those pearly gates.
 i will await to see you my precious child no matter how long it takes.
 i no  we will never truely be apart because i will carry u forever within my heart. 

RIP KyLiegh Raquel

[lil_fun]
2008-08-13 00:35:30

love lost

I'm sorry today has been hard on you, made even worse by the news of your friend. I'm really sorry to hear about her little one.

Stay positive. Its going to happen for you.

[VanityDespair]
2008-08-12 21:12:04

love lost do you know how the baby-gag borads work? are you on there?
[ToxicDoll]
2008-08-12 19:14:39

AUG.12TH 2006 Juli,

I'm sorry for yours and Jason's loss. I'll keep all three of you in my prayers. Take care.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-12 12:43:09

love lost Juli,

I'm sorry about your friends loss, and yours. Take care and talk to you soon.

Chad

[GhostWalker]
2008-08-12 12:40:36

AUG.12TH 2006 I'm so sorry, Juli.[thatpotsmokinghippy] 2008-08-12 10:06:54

love lost I'm in pre-labor right now, have been since Thursday at 7. But I'm 36 weeks, so they will let me have her now if I go. I'm ready. These contractions suck.[yardstick] 2008-08-12 09:31:23

Halloween? ideas? I love halloween too. I can't wait Mr. Green[luckygrl] 2008-08-12 05:49:55

AUG.12TH 2006 Juli sweetie my heart goes out to you today. Losing a baby is the hardest thing ever. I know the feeling all too well. It hurts and there are so many unanswered questions and its just simply not fair that our children are taken away from us. Not a day goes by that I don't think about Isaac and miss him so much. Hang in there today hon and if you need to cry let it out. Your angel KyLiegh is smiling down on you today from heaven.[luckygrl] 2008-08-12 05:46:04

♥pictures♥ I just